“How to be a better father” is a talk I gave to men last night. It’s based on St. Peter’s first letter to his own men.
The entire story of Jews and Catholics meet: God marries His people in today’s Gospel, Matthew 22.
Myth #1: A priest can give you permission to skip Sunday Mass if you had a very busy weekend (for example, a Saturday wedding.)
Truth: Sunday Mass is part of the Third Commandment. A priest can not dispense you from God’s commandments. No sooner could a priest give a frisky married man a dispensation on the 6th commandment for his travels than he could give a person a dispensation for fulfilling a matter of Divine Law. I blogged recently on the different levels of authority here. If you are sick or having a baby or travelling (i.e Mass would be impossible) then there is no sin in missing Sunday Mass. In that case, you don’t need a priest to give you a dispensation. It stands in Canon Law for you to be honest but generous before God. 1
Myth #2: A bishop or a pastor can tell the assistant priest (or parochial vicar) that he is following too many of the Church’s rules at his personal or public Mass.
Truth: The priest is responsible for offering his own Mass worthily and well. In every pre-Vatican II Missal (probably going back 1,000 years or more) there are rubrics listed; any purposeful diversion from these imputes immediate mortal sin to the priest (not his bishop.) No one has proven to me that this has been abrogated doctrinally in the past 50 years. The priest is the extension of the bishop’s hand in the diocese, but he should be willing to lose his faculties before going against the tradition of the Church. The bishop is the chief liturgist of the diocese, but even documents after Vatican II like Redemptionis Sacramentum (2004) give astounding power to the individual priest to follow the rules of the Roman Mass outlined in that document. If he has faculties, he needs no one’s permission to follow these rubrics. This includes protection of the Eucharist: For people in sin who come to Holy Communion, the priest should never embarrass the person at the altar-rail. Rather, he should pastorally try to convince them of life-reform behind close doors. Should the communicant ignore the priest, and should the communicant be in public sin, the priest is then allowed to refuse them Holy Communion. In the next year, we will see cases of bishops denying priests this right, but the Vatican ruled in a 2000 document that “no ecclesiastical authority may dispense the minister of Holy Communion from this obligation in any case, nor may he emanate directives that contradict it.” No ecclesiastical authority includes the Pope, since we’re talking about a matter of Divine Law that a man can not change. Nevertheless, I predict that more cases (like this one that happened even before Amoris Laetitia) will catch priests and bishops into similar Eucharistic and doctrinal divisions that many predict could cause schism in Rome. But first, I predict this story will first play out in the United States between bishops and probably more “neo-con” priests than even “trads,” based on simple demographics of who attends the Traditional Latin Mass.
Myth #3: A priest can be defrocked.
Truth: “Defrocked” is a silly Anglican term that the media mistakenly apply to Catholics. We have our own terms that you should know. First of all, even if a priest gets married, he remains a priest forever (See Ps 110 and Hebrews.) As you learned in Catechism, there are three of the seven sacraments that leave an indeliable (un-erasable) seal upon your soul: Baptism, Confirmation, Holy Orders. Marriage will not continue in heaven (Luke 20.) Holy Orders will no longer be practicing the sacraments in heaven, but whether the priest go to heaven or hell, he is marked forever in his soul (for all angels and demons to see!) as a priest in heaven or hell. Again, “defrocking” is an Anglican term. We Catholics have some other terms for priests who are inactive:
—Suspension: This means the priest has the power to do the sacraments but no longer the right to do the sacraments (something extended by the bishop or Pope or head of his religious order.) Usually this priest got in trouble for something with his bishop. However, an untold amount of saints were also suspended for doing the right thing. For example, Padre Pio was suspended twice, once for 10 years. He was obedient, even though the authorities were unjust. This term is sometimes called “inactive” or “loss of faculties.”
—Laicization: This is a process whereby a priest asks for dispensation from his vows, usually in order to get married. Ultimately, only the Pope can give it, even if by rubber-stamping. But the paperwork still goes through Rome, even in these times of odd decentralization.
Myth #4: Priests love it when you say “Without you, we wouldn’t have the Eucharist!”
Truth: We love the fact that you love Christ in the Blessed Sacrament more than us, but when you talk like that, it’s obvious you have a love of the Eucharist without a love of the priesthood. Here’s what I mean. The priesthood actually includes 3 munera or gifts: 1) Teach. 2) Sanctify (sacraments). 3) Govern. Most neo-cons and even many traditionalists want their priests to give them the sacraments their way (à la Burger King) and then to not ruffle their feathers with too much besides that. Well, we’re not sacramental ATMs. You don’t get the sacraments without us also teaching and governing. If you just want the Eucharist alone, go to a Communion Service. If you want to live the Holy Sacrifice and experience fatherhood in the future life of the Catholic Church, then raise chaste sons to become heroic, manly, loving, sacrificial priests who are at one and the same time both servants and leaders—and of course, great teachers. Then, the people will follow men who are not only experts of the sacraments, but experts on the human heart.
Myth #5: It is a good idea for a priest to pray his Psalms.
Truth: Praying the daily Divine Office (Psalm rotation) is mandatory. The public promise we take on the day of our ordination is even more binding that our daily Mass (except Sundays.) The Eastern Churches do not have her priests make such a promise, but the Roman Church does, and the idea that this only includes Matins (Morning Prayer) and Vespers (Evening Prayer) is an urban legend. The new Divine Office requires the priest to pray the Psalms a total of 5 times a day. The old Divine Office requires the priest to pray the Psalms a total of 8 times a day (doing the whole Psalter of 150 Psalms every single week, in Latin.) This is actually not only the tradition of the Church, it is the faith of Israel: The Jews prayed the Psalms a total of 7 times a day, as mentioned in Psalm 118/119: “I will praise you seven times a day.”
Myth #6: Priests are the least safe people to have around your children.
Truth: Priests are statistically the safest people to have around your children. Before getting into statistics, let me apologize on behalf of the Catholic Church for the thousands of priests who abused children and subsequently caused unknown numbers of Catholic families to leave the Church. I believe all those priests should go to prison for life. If they do not repent and confess in prison, they will burn in hell forever. There is no excuse for bishops who moved priests around. They shouldn’t retire in Rome. They should go to prison, too. You will hear no justification from me for this behavior, so I don’t expect the following statistics to heal the families who had someone commit suicide after being abused by a highly-trusted priest. But, we must also consider two things that the media is not telling us. First, pastors, priests and rabbis have the lowest rates of abuse of children. Teachers, doctors and farmers have the highest rates of harming children. Religious leaders are simply the safest. Among religious leaders, priests are statistically the safest. Non-Catholic Philip Jenkins at University of Pennsylvania has shown here that statistically, the rate of molestors among priests is 1.8%, lower than any other “profession.” Do you want to know who is the most dangerous people around your children? Male family members. Priestly celibacy is not the issue, especially since married men are statistically more likely to abuse children than unmarried. Most child abuse takes place within the home. The second issue that the media is silent about is the fact that 80% of the priests who molest children are homosexual. Even the USCCB was—at one point—transparent on this. Regarding the John Jay study, Dr. Paul McHugh, former psychiatrist-in-chief at Johns Hopkins Hospital and a member of the National Review Board, said here that the priest crisis revealed a “homosexual predation on American Catholic youth.” This is not shifting the blame. It’s simply showing us that celibacy is clearly not the problem, especially since celibacy automatically requires the highest levels of self control. I say to people all the time: “If you marry a pervert, you have a married pervert. If you ordain a pervert, you have a priestly pervert.” The real question is not married priests. The real question is why the bishops in the 1970s and 1980s filled their seminaries with homosexual men. But you probably won’t hear much about that in the Boston Globe.
Myth #7: A priest can live without a woman in his life.
Truth: A priest can not live without a woman in his life. That is why we have the strongest devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary. I have never known a priest who prays five decades a day to fall into preaching doctrinal error. Anyone (of any vocation) who prays 15 decades a day is nearly invincible against chastity falls. And yes, you can quote me on that. It’s not that God is counting how many prayers we pray. Rather, the tighter we are wrapped in the veil of the Immaculate Heart, the more shielded we will be from the missiles of the enemy that take down priests every day. Oremus pro invicem, let us pray for one another.
Can. 1245 Without prejudice to the right of diocesan bishops mentioned in ⇒ can. 87, for a just cause and according to the prescripts of the diocesan bishop, a pastor can grant in individual cases a dispensation from the obligation of observing a feast day or a day of penance or can grant a commutation of the obligation into other pious works. A superior of a religious institute or society of apostolic life, if they are clerical and of pontifical right, can also do this in regard to his own subjects and others living in the house day and night. ↩
Sunday homily on the true power of good confession.
One of the reasons I love the Traditional Latin Mass is because the Collect (the beginning prayer to God after the Introit and the Kyrie) usually links heaven and earth. For example, the collect of the votive Mass of St. Joseph reads:
Oh God, who in Thine unspeakable Providence didst vouchsafe to choose blessed Joseph for Thy most holy Mother’s spouse, grant we beseech Thee, that we who revere him as our protector upon earth, may become worthy to have him for our intercessor in heaven.
I have wondered for a few years why the old Mass always ties heaven to earth in the opening prayer. It has to be for more than saccharinely-sweet reasons of saintly piety. It is probably because the prayers of everyone are collected and given to the Blessed Trinity through the sacred humanity of Jesus Christ who is fully God and fully man. God the Son is everywhere on the planet, but only in Catholic and Orthodox tabernacles can we find Jesus of Nazareth in His humanity. The hypostatic union is the ancient teaching that Jesus Christ is one Divine Person subsisting in two natures, human and divine, and so both must be included in the collect.
So, look again at the prayer of St. Joseph above. Heaven and earth do not meet in St. Joseph, but they do meet in Jesus Christ, and St. Joseph participates in this. Thus, we ask Joseph’s protection on earth by being an intercessor in heaven. This collect launches us into the frightful but awesome reality we approach later in the Mass: We are transported outside of time to be at the foot of Calvary where Jesus was murdered. Remember that Jesus is 100% God and 100% man.
Many heretics in the days of the early Church believed that Jesus was God, but doubted that He lived a full experience on earth as man (the heresy of docetism.) Other heretics in the early Church believed that Jesus died but was not God (Arianism—still around.) But the opening collects of the old Mass prevent this way of thinking: By connecting heaven and earth, we begin to see the reality of the hypostatic union in the Eucharistic sacrifice: God dies—not as God—but as a man, and the Mass is this very separation of His body and blood, comprising His death. Later, we receive His resurrected body and blood in every host!
Besides adoration, thanksgiving, reparation and petition, there is something comforting about the hypostatic union that we approach at Mass, beginning at the opening collect. Start with this: Think about your favorite interaction with Jesus and someone in the Gospel. Maybe it’s Mary Magdalene. Maybe it is Peter. Maybe it is the woman whose daughter has a demon. Jesus could look at any person and at that moment, He immediately knew that only He could die for that person because Jesus was the only one more hurt by sin than that individual was. This is because He is God.
But as man, Jesus had His heart pierced. On the Cross, present in the Eucharist, His Divine-human heart was already bursting in pain and sorrow and longing for every human that has ever lived or was living or will live—you and me. He knew outside of time every one of your thoughts, dreams, pains, sins, merits, joys and sufferings. In the offertory of the Mass, we bring our best intentions and our broken hearts. And at the consecration, we on earth are lifted to heaven, but we are not out of place any more: To have our tiny human hearts stretched and broken for the life of the world—this is what it means to console the heart of Jesus Christ.
In suspected Eucharistic miracles, the Eucharistic host in question is brought to secular histologists (experts of human tissue.) What looks like bread, tastes like bread and smells like bread is always found to be cardiac tissue just like the above miracle of Lanciano, revealing still-incorrupt human tissue, even though it started as bread in a doubting priest’s hands over 1000 years ago. This means that the Eucharist is the fullness of Christ, but the Eucharist is especially the physical heart of Jesus of Nazareth whom we receive.
Only Jesus’ heart is fully God and fully man.
Kibeho, Rwanda, where Mary appeared in 1981 in a Vatican-approved apparition, preaching (among many things) the renewal of the ancient 7-sorrows Rosary.
…”to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children.”—Luke 1:17