On 26 July 2025, I reposted the Facebook (FB) post of a married woman named Christine Ruby. Her original post from 14 July 2025 was 1,512 words long. The first words to her post read: “Sinful Foreplay, Oral Sex, Sodomy, Use of Contraception, Enhancement Drugs, and Sex Toys Are Morally, Mortal and Grave Sins.”
In regards to acts disallowed by the Catholic Church in the marriage bed, Mrs. Ruby quoted definitive sources like Pope Pius XI’s Casti Connubii. She also quoted at length St. Alphonsus Liguori and even the new Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC.)
As I mentioned above, I only reposted her long and catechetical post on my FB profile here. The only header I gave to my own was to clarify the confusing meme that began Mrs. Ruby’s (otherwise excellent) post. I wrote: “Every saint I have ever read agrees with the moral theology found in this long post. (“Foreplay” is defined later in post, so don’t shoot the messenger.)”
Under my post, there were then 179 comments within 24 hours. Many of these comments were angry Catholics who had only believed Christopher West’s horrible theology that basically the act only need be completed in the right location but everything else in marriage is permitted (paraphrased.) This is obviously wrong and has misled thousands of married Catholics. But under my repost, many good but uneducated Catholics became shocked that the Doctors and Saints of the Catholic Church disallow or*l s*x, even in marriage.
Among my readers who were shocked, the smarter ones went and prayed about if they were going to trust St. Alphonsus Liguori or their local Novus Ordo priest when it came to the marriage bed leading to heaven or hell. The duller ones left 179 comments under my post, a third of which have been deleted because of my blocking people (discussed later in this post.)
However, my post made Mrs. Leila Lawler so mad that she commented several times on my post. When I finally closed open-comments (partly due to dozens of immodest comments) Mrs. Lawler took this personally and went into a well-controlled rage against me on her own FB profile with many lies about my FB post.
I’m going to name just two of her lies below:
Lawler Lie #1: Mrs. Lawler claims I closed FB comments because of her.
As seen above, her post against me started with the words, “Not a fan of spiritual manipulation. FrDave Nix you left an insinuating reply to me and then closed your comments.”
Truth #1: After 179 comments in less than 24 hours, I closed comments because of many people. This was important to do as there were getting to be many comments on o*al s*x in marriage, many of which were getting to be immodest and angry. People were obviously angry because they were convicted in conscience.
While it is true that 179 comments were left under my post (which again, was simply my repost of a well-researched post on the marriage bed compiled by a married woman) no one left as many angry comments as Mrs. Leila Lawler. As you probably know from her books, she is normally rational and articulate. But this topic of the marriage-bed brings out the worse in people. People enter a craze when they can’t keep their mouth shut on this topic.
Finally, by the time Lawler had left somewhere between 5 and 10 comments on my original post (more than anyone else) this was my final frustrated reply to her:
As Shakespeare said, “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” And fury she did release on me. Because my comments were closed by this point (See Truth #1 above) Mrs. Lawler got on her own FB profile and claimed my comment above made her the victim of “spiritual manipulation” and accused me of “abuse of your collar.”
Lawler Lie #2: Fr. Nix did “spiritual manipulation” and “abuse of [the] collar” for a Facebook comment she didn’t like.
Truth #2: Replying to someone on Facebook is not “spiritual manipulation,” especially when it is defending the sanctity of marriage bed with quotes from St. Alphonsus Liguori.
I don’t claim to know anything about the marriage bed of the Lawlers, and I don’t want to know. The sad thing with all of Mrs. Lawler’s frenzied comments under my post is that she had my cell phone number the whole time. She could have easily texted me and just said “Hey, this is getting heated. Why not both just delete all our comments?”
But instead, she began a new post against me claiming that a simple comment she didn’t like on FB (seen above in the screenshot) was “spiritual manipulation” and “abuse of [the] collar.” Did she include that screenshot on her FB post? Of course not, because then she couldn’t have convinced people of all her lies. And Mrs. Lawler did convince people of these lies against me, as there were hundreds of likes and hundreds of comments coming to comfort her after all this “spiritual abuse.”
Mrs. Leila Lawler has written some good books. So, many of you might be surprised at her false-accusations against me here. But as St. Augustine said, “Men love the truth when it shines warmly on them and hate it when it rebukes them.” Or as I say in much less elegant terms: “The way liberals act when they meet a conservative is the way conservatives act when they meet a traditionalist.”
Dr. Taylor Marshall had me on his show to talk about Narcissism a couple years ago. It has 188k views on YT alone. I’m not sharing the number of views to be, um, narcissistic but to show that many people trust me on this issue. I got good at it through intellectual study but also through personal experience.
What were these personal experiences that led me to identify narcissists? One reason was because homosexual priests and bishops are very good at lying. Another reason is that I learned that seemingly well put-together Catholic women could make any accusation they wanted against me like “spiritual manipulation” or “abuse of your collar” when they hear a Church dogma they didn’t like.
Because people are so ready to believe the “victim” on such things, the priest is left with no recourse in today’s society. This is especially true after so many priests have [rightfully] been imprisoned for sexual abuse following “spiritual manipulation.”
Yes, I know Mrs. Leila Lawler has written some good books on order in the home. I do not know if she is a narcissist. But I do know that narcissists do the very thing they accuse others of, namely, “spiritual manipulation.” Narcissists will always refrain from the evidence in recruiting flying monkeys. Lawler convinced hundreds of her flying monkeys that I closed comments because of her (a lie disproven above in #1) and that replying to some of her many angry comments on my own FB profile constitutes “abuse of your collar” (another lie proven above in #2.)
Of course, she would not share a picture of her comment found above in this article, or screenshot her many other obnoxious comments under my original post. That would not have left her enough room to play “the victim.”
As I explain in that video on Narcissism, I just block people like that. I know for sure that if I had replied with all these facts under Lawler’s post against me, her flying monkeys would have piled on me. But instead, I blocked many of her followers who blindly believed her lies against me without even looking at my own FB page. Unfortunately, many of these “friends” I blocked or unfriended were my own friends in real life. Or, so I thought.
Mrs. Leila Lawler obviously doesn’t like priests using fear when it comes to her own soul. But after she has lied about me in front of thousands of people, well, now I will use fear: You greatly endanger your own soul until you retract these lies from your FB page about me. The old moralists (who you obviously don’t like from your panicked comments this weekend) are also clear you can’t even make a good confession for sins against the Eighth Commandment until you make public reparation for public damage done. I pray you do exactly this because your books will not outweigh such false-accusations against a priest online at your particular judgment.